INTENSITY MARKERS:
[M] = Fard / Wajib (Obligatory — must do)  |  [1] = Sunnah Mu'akkadah / Highly Recommended  |  [2] = Sunnah / Recommended  |  [3] = Mustahab / Virtuous / Commendable  |  [H] = Haram (Forbidden — must not do)  |  [h] = Makruh (Discouraged — should not do)  |  [P] = Mubah (Permissible — neutral)

✅ What to Do

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[1]Make du'a for their righteousness.
[1]Mention Allah's name when eating (Quran 6:121; Bukhari 5376) [bg:Revealed in Mecca addressing the fundamentals of faith: tawheed, resurrection, prophethood. Refutes the polytheists who set up partners with Allah and forbade what Allah had provided. The ayah 'And do not kill your children out of fear of poverty' (6:151) was revealed regarding the Quraysh's practice of female infanticide. Revealed in Mecca (early-middle Meccan period) concerning the pagan Arabs who would eat carrion and meat not slaughtered in Allah's name, and would argue with the Prophet asking 'What Allah has killed (carrion) is more worthy to be eaten than what you slaughter.' The ayah commands to mention Allah's name when eating (saying Bismillah), making lawful what has been properly slaughtered.]
[1]Play with your children, hug them, kiss them — the Prophet kissed his grandchildren. (Bukhari 5997)
[1]Pray for your children's righteousness and guidance. (Qur'an 25:74)
[1]Show love and affection. (Bukhari 5997)
[1]Teach the Qur'an, Islamic manners, and good character.
[2]Allow them to choose their spouse at maturity.
[2]Be just and fair among children. (Bukhari 2587)
[2]Make the adhan in the right ear of the newborn. (Abu Dawud 5105)
[2]Teach them life skills.
[2]Teach them swimming, archery, and horse-riding. (Muslim 1675)
[3]If you are grateful, I will surely increase you — Be grateful for Allah's blessings (Quran 14:7; Bukhari 52) [bg:Revealed in Mecca centered on Prophet Ibrahim's supplication for Makkah and his descendants. The surah calls the Quraysh to recognize Allah's blessings and warns that those who replace gratitude with disbelief will face destruction. Named after Ibrahim whose dua for Makkah's security connects the Prophet's mission to the patriarch of monotheism. Revealed in the Meccan period as part of Allah's reminder to the Children of Israel (through the story of Musa/Moses in the wider context of the surah).]
[3]Touch their head gently and make du'a for them.
[M]Give a good name on the 7th day with aqiqah. (Tirmidhi 1516)
[M]Teach them tawheed, prayer at age 7, discipline gently at 10.

🚫 What Not to Do

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[H]Abandon children after divorce.
[H]Abuse or neglect children.
[H]Curse your children even in anger. (Muslim 3009)
[H]Did I not command you, children of Adam, not to worship shaytan? — Worship anything besides Allah (Quran 36:60-61; Muslim 2866) [bg:Revealed in Mecca and called the 'Heart of the Quran' (qalb al-Quran) by the Prophet. The surah presents three parables: the Companions of the City (Antioch), the believer from the outskirts, and the signs of Allah in creation. Revealed to establish the truth of prophethood, resurrection, and divine power. Revealed in Mecca declaring: 'Did I not command you, O children of Adam, that you not worship Shaytan — indeed he is to you a clear enemy — and that you worship Me? This is a straight path.' This was revealed when the Quraysh worshipped idols at the command of their leaders, effectively following Shaytan's path.]
[H]Do not let your wealth and children distract you from Allah's remembrance — Let wealth and children distract from Allah (Quran 63:9; Bukhari 6431) [bg:Revealed in Medina (5-7 AH) exposing the hypocrisy of 'Abdullah ibn Ubayy ibn Salul, the leader of the hypocrites (munafiqun). The surah was revealed after the incident with Banu al-Mustaliq when ibn Ubayy boasted: 'The more honorable will expel the more humble.' The hypocrites are exposed as those who say one thing and believe another. Revealed in Medina warning: 'O you who believe, let not your wealth and children distract you from the remembrance of Allah.' This was revealed concerning the hypocrites who were absorbed in trade and family matters to the point of neglecting spiritual duties, and those who avoided Jihad due to attachment to their wealth.]
[H]Force a daughter into marriage against her will.
[H]Waste food and resources extravagantly (Quran 6:141; Bukhari 567) [bg:Revealed in Mecca addressing the fundamentals of faith: tawheed, resurrection, prophethood. Refutes the polytheists who set up partners with Allah and forbade what Allah had provided. The ayah 'And do not kill your children out of fear of poverty' (6:151) was revealed regarding the Quraysh's practice of female infanticide. Revealed in Mecca regarding the pagan Arabs who would dedicate certain crops and cattle to their idols while claiming it was for Allah.]
[h]Curse or make negative du'a against them.
[h]Favor one child over another in gifts.
[h]Frighten children with "Allah will punish you" — teach Allah's love first.
[h]Give one child a gift and not the other equally.
[h]Wealth and children are adornments of worldly life — Be arrogant about worldly wealth and children (Quran 18:46; Muslim 2747) [bg:Revealed in Mecca (some ayahs Medinan) in response to the Quraysh's delegation to the Jewish rabbis who advised them to ask Muhammad about the Companions of the Cave, Dhul-Qarnayn, and the Soul. The surah teaches lessons of faith under persecution (the Cave), knowledge with humility (Musa and al-Khidr), power with righteousness (Dhul-Qarnayn), and patience. Revealed in the Meccan period contrasting the fleeting nature of worldly wealth and children with enduring righteous deeds.]

⭐ As You Wish

[P]Eat from what the earth produces lawfully (Quran 6:141; Bukhari 2208) [bg:Revealed in Mecca addressing the fundamentals of faith: tawheed, resurrection, prophethood. Refutes the polytheists who set up partners with Allah and forbade what Allah had provided. The ayah 'And do not kill your children out of fear of poverty' (6:151) was revealed regarding the Quraysh's practice of female infanticide. Revealed in Mecca regarding the pagan Arabs who would dedicate certain crops and cattle to their idols while claiming it was for Allah.]
— Breastfeed for 2 full years or less. (Qur'an 2:233)
— Circumcision on 7th day or later (must be before puberty).

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